Parenting with love & affection

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Fariha Afsar (Kuragh)

Affection, care and love are only and only reserved for children, right? WRONG. Our society is grooming us into people who have limited thoughts about each and everything.

The same goes for parenting love towards their children. Parents shower their affection on their infant kids, part of it is because kids are unable to take care of themselves. They depend on others to fulfil their needs. The other part is that they are adorable beings who can attract anyone easily towards them.

But as soon as those kids turn to adults, the air of love, previously hovering around them also changes. The perspective that grown ups do not require affection is stupidity.

All the frustration, traumas and heart breaks that young people are going through, need someone to share their problems with, be it parents, siblings or a friend. They need the assurance of their family, love of their parents, even more than before. Many face problems in their work life, university, college or just on a day to day activity.

They feel the urge to share those temple throbbing issues with someone, but those who have the obligation to listen, turn a deaf ear towards them. This is why those kids start believing that being an adult means killing your emotion, suppressing your desire, pretending to be a brute and never shedding a tear. Is being an adult that much bad?

Don’t boast about yourself that just because you’re providing financial assistance to your adult child is all that is needed. No, it’s not. Apart from that the most important help that you can give someone is emotional aid. Your few words like, “I true you”, have a huge impact on your child’s life, but you don’t know it. Your support during times of failure or disappointing moments is all that the child is seeking. A pat on the shoulder or a warm hug to your child will never harm them, instead it will rebuild them. They would always have the assurance that no matter what their families are always with them.

Next time when you feel like your kid is drifting away from you, or striving in the company of other people then you need to seriously reflect on your parenting skills because then the fault won’t be theirs, it will be yours. The same is the reason behind most suicide cases. YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE BEING YOU ARE GROOMING, whether it’s a human being or a machine-like being.

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